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Anxiety lesson 10 – Just some pointers to lessen anxiety and bring a bit of stillness

·      Stagger life transitions, new job, new school for teenager and new partner is going to create anxiety. One thing at a time and make time just for one thing.

·      Surround yourself with people who don’t want something from you. Find people with an 80% positive outlook.

·      Diary when your time of the month is and plan a self-care routine for the first 2 days of it.

·      Say to yourself ‘I feel quite calm actually’ at frequent intervals. The positive drip drip of affirmations brings behaviour change.

·      When you return home put your slippers on and a comfy jumper with your blanket on stand by for comfort

·      Don’t ruminate about past behaviour, people usually do this in a highly anxious state (front thinking brain cut off) its pointless because you can’t change what has happened and you’re too anxious to learn from it to apply it the next time.

·      Sort your kitchen and bedroom out, remove the clutter, you need the kitchen to function and your bedroom is your sanctuary, make it a pleasant space for wind down.

·      When interactions with certain people make you anxious, work out really quickly what this is about and if it is your emotional stuff or theirs.

·      Concentrate on your own needs for 35 minute a day.

·      If you can tolerate it, allow people to hug you, hold you, touch you. It is therapeutic. If you can’t tolerate this go into nature and sit in the grass or on the beach, or take your shoes off and walk on the ground.

·      Actively ignore how much revision Sophie has done, or how much prep Jen has done on her presentation. You can’t control what other people do, you can only control what you do.

·      Turn the radio off in the car and have some quiet.

·      Plan 15 minutes extra in for all tasks

·      Sort your sleep out, look into ways to get better sleep. Be curious about sleep quality, google it and apply what you learn.

·      Say ‘I’ll think about it’ to more things while you work out what you want to say YES to.

·      relax your body while walking, drop the shoulders, breath deep and slow your pace. Try doing it round the supermarket (its hard) but when you slow right down, you do feel calmer.

·      Find what you are interested in and learn about it on the internet.

·      Do something creative, drama, painting, dance, pottery, scrap book, photography

·      Massage your feet, better still get someone else to do it.

·      Have a plan, because if life feels scary then it’s got to be better with a plan. It provides structure and minimises the unpredictability of events.

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