Social media bullying, the effects are far reaching for everyone involved. What you can do to support your teenager Overwhelmed and panicked is the feeling both teenagers and their parents experience when bullying happens on social media. The themes that play out over the days and weeks of this harassment is: Intrusion Isolation Embarrassment Lack of control over events Repetitive Helplessness Fight or flight Frustrated A lack of voice A lack of autonomy Those themes are also used to describe PTSD and that is because being bullied on social media or real life bullying over time is traumatic. In particular criterion D and E in the diagnosis of PTSD very much relates to the list above. It changes the life course and life stages, because in some circumstances the teenager has to bring an end to the cycle themselves by withdrawing from school, this brings a whole host of loses that this blog can’t cover in one go. Let’s take each of the themes above and expand
One of the issues I work with frequently with teenagers is self-harm. Self-harm can feel complex and overwhelming to parents and school staff who see it as a destructive behaviour. It is extremely distressing for the young person and also for the parent that feel powerless to stop it. It is destructive in its nature but is also a coping strategy to regulate feelings that feel powerful and overwhelming. When I worked in a school counselling team, school staff used to describe it as attention-seeking, but in fact, it is attention needing. What do I mean by this? The teenager is trying to understand and regulate these difficult emotions and is seeking to connect. What self-harm provides is a frequent return to a regulated state that the person has ultimate control over. Many young people report that it feels like a release of tension and agitation, that the tension release is freeing. In counselling and other arenas such as a supportive conversation at home, the teenager needs t