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Why do the arguments escalate – emotional language is part of the reason, here is an alternative.

  There are three aspects that lead to us using emotive language and catastrophising with our teens…Worry, panic and anger. It is hard not to worry, worry is the ‘digital age’ parent default mode. Of course, parents have always worried about their children through the generations, but not to this level. It seems to permeate through our lives, as the mental health crisis grows within the child and adolescent population it makes sense that it travels upwards to the parents.   We are anxious and frustrated at being anxious, this leads to a less-than-ideal way of responding. We all do it. We find ourselves reflecting on the confrontation later and wishing we had responded differently and certainly chosen our words and tone for the better. Research suggests that mothers exhibit more negative affect in terms of angry responses with girls, whereas with boys, mothers exhibited more negative affect in terms of outward expression of anxiety, leading to panic. I have spoken before about

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